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ඔයා දැන් relationship එකක ඉන්නවා නම්, තමන්ගේ ආදරවන්තයා හෝ ආදරවන්තියව ආදරෙන් බලා ගන්නවා කියන්නේ දාන දාන ෆොටෝ එකට ලස්සනයි කියන එකවත්, ලස්සනට ඇඳලා ඉන්න වෙලාවට විතරක් ලස්සනයි කියලා ලඟින් ඉන්න එක වත්, තනි වෙලා ඉන්න වෙලාවට එයාව මතක් වෙලා text කරන එකවත්, තමන්ට හැඟීම් ඇවිස්සුනාම සෙක්ස් කරන එක යනාදිය විතරක්ම කරන එක නෙමෙයි.  එහෙම දේවල් විතරක්ම ඔයාගේ සම්බන්ධය තුල ඇති වෙනවා  නම් ඒක ආකර්ෂණයක් විතරයි, තවත් වචනයකින් කිව්වොත් ආදරය කරන්න දන්නේ නැති, කැපවීමක් කරන්න සූදානමක් නැති මිනිස්සු තමන්ගේ අවශ්‍යතාවයන් ඉටු කර ගන්න විතරක් මේ ආකර්ෂණය පාවිච්චි කරනවා. නමුත් එම ආකර්ෂණය දෙදෙනෙක් අතර තියෙන්නේ ඉතාමත් සුළු කාලයක් පමණයි. මෙය සම්බන්ධය පටන්ගෙන මාස 02ත් - 06ත් අතර කාලයකදී අවසන් වෙනවා. ආකර්ෂණයක් පමණක් ඇති දෙදෙනෙක් අතරේ ආදරයක් හට ගන්න තියෙන හැකියාව බොහොමත් අඩුයි. මොකද ඔවුන් තම සම්බන්ධය තුලදී හිතන්නේ තමාගේ සතුට විතරයි. තමන්ගේ පංචස්කන්ධයට (ඇස, කන, නාසය, දිව, ශරීරය යනාදිය)  අනෙක් පුද්ගලයාව දැකීමෙන් පිනවීමක් පමණක් ම ලැබෙනවා නම් එය ආකර්ෂණය හෙවත් attraction එකක් කියලා හඳුන්වන්න පුළුවන්. නමුත් තමන්ගේ පංචස්...

Men are protective in nature. When a man loves, he protects without keeping any limitations. Men protect what is valuable for them.  Protect your wife from other women, don't make other women feel comfortable to bad mouth your wife or disrespect her just because you allow it. Females will treat your wife based on how you treat her. Protect your wife from your parents and siblings. When you hear them talking badly about the woman you chose and who bore you children tell them "Mom, dad I honor you but kindly show respect to the woman I am building a home with" Protect your wife from your friends who mock her and speak so casually about her.  Those friends might leave you in a few months but your wife is with you for life till the day you close your eyes. If anything happens to you, she will be there for you no matter what. When they make fun of her, they are making fun of you, you two are one. Never let anyone to make fun of her. Protect your wife from physical abuse, yes y...

Sometimes we need someone to simply be there. Not to fix anything, or to do anything in particular, but just to let us feel that we are cared for and supported.  Fall in love with someone who will take care of you, and your heart also, keep if safe from harm. Someone who opens up their soul and doesn't keep any secret from you. Someone who brings your happiness and makes you laugh.  Nothing is sexier than a man who admits he wants you, shows how much he loves you, respects you, gives his time and attention to you, does anything to make you smile, and sees no other girls because he is too busy loving you.  Do not teach a man, how to be your man. Do not ask him to show you off, do not ask him to text you, do not ask him to care about you, do not ask him to bring you random flowers, and do not ask him to plan dates. The right one will know exactly what to do and when to do it.  If you have a wonderful man, who helps balance your whole world, who isn't perfect, but is pe...

I think you know you truly love someone when he is always there in the back of your mind. Like he might not be there in person but you wish he was by your side all the time. I just wish I could laugh with him, gossip with him, smile with him, I honestly wish I could do so many things with him.  It's so crazy how many feelings you can have for one person. Love is a weird feeling but it's also the most amazing feeling ever. When that special person just texts you "I love you" or calls you out of the blue; Your heart hurts and your eyes just light up with joy it's crazy.  I imagine if he and I would have lived closer if our relationship would still be the same. Or if we did, would we even talk or not about each other. I believe that God put us together and distanced us for some reason. That is to identify the difference between love and attraction. Love will never fade whatever the circumstance is. Attraction and cheesy words won't last for more than 3 - 4 months...

There's a very thin line between self-respect & Ego Self-respect is  a feeling of confidence and pride in your own ability and worth.  Ego  is the Latin word for "I." So if a person seems to begin every sentence with "I", it's sometimes a sign of a big ego I have self-respect but I do not have EGO. If I love someone I will try my level best to talk to and keep in touch with that person I will be the first one to send the message. I will be the first one to call to tell them. I will be the first one to go and meet them. But when the communication stops everything will stop eventually... Without communication, there's no point in having a relationship.. It means the other person does not want to keep in touch with you... Simply, it's called losing interest, and eventually, they will stop caring about you... Always trust your instincts  NEVER FIND A PLACE WHERE YOU ARE GOING TO LOSE YOUR SELF-RESPECT. 

If you are thinking your HR is not doing anything just remember;  He/She is handling many different personalities at the same time from the top management to middle management sometimes the lower one as well, He/She is trying to make you all happy and want to retain all of you. Starting from the recruitment, training, documentation,  employee engagement, compensation and benefits, performance, providing services to the employees, compliance, grievance handling, employee health and safety, the well-being of the employees, conflict management, Maintaining HRIS, counseling, employee data analysis, balancing the culture, implementation of the policies and maintain the harmony and employee discipline, entertaining the employees by conducting events, balancing the social and cultural aspects are some of the major duties of a HR professional which is invisible for most of the people. I have seen so many posts where employees are making fun of HR.  He/She is there when you ask fo...

You choose the wrong people not because there is something wrong with you but because you want them so desperately to be right because of what it is you've invested in that person.  I think sometimes you settle for what you think is love not because you don't know what you deserve but because you believe in the potential of what a person can be. You choose to see their good even in moments of bad and that says a lot about the kind of person you are.  You choose to be loyal to someone whose loyalty to us is based on how you make them feel about themselves and it isn't mutual. You can't love people into loving you.  You can't value people into seeing your worth. Because whether they see it or not you are worthy of the kind of love that shakes you in a way you never lose confidence in the person.  Be proud of yourself for being exactly who you are. And be a little more forgiving if you're in this position or in some kind of relationship that isn't actually a re...

Stay with someone who can always love the worst in you but is still brave enough to remind you that you have a lot of growing up to do. Stay with someone who can always love your wilted parts but is still patient enough to walk with you as you slowly bloom, and finally meet the better version of yourself.  Stay with someone who can always love your weak spots but still mindful enough to tell you that it’s okay to distance yourself from everything and everyone because you need to work on being strong on your own.  Stay with someone who can always love your dark yesterday, but is still willing to take brighter tomorrow with you. ❤️

කෑ ගහලා අඬන්න හිතෙන වෙලාවකත් දුක තද කරගෙන මුකුත් නොවුන ගානට හිනා වෙන්න පුලුවන් වුන  දාට,  තමන්ගේ හිතට හොදටම දැනුන කෙනා නැවත එන්නේ නෑ කියලා දැන දැනත් ඔහු හෝ ඇයට එක සිතුවිල්ලකින්වත් වෛර නොකරන දාට, පිහියෙන් අනින්න තරම් තරහක් තියෙන මිනිස්සුන්ටත් අතට අත දීලා කතා කරන්න, ඔවුන්ට උදවු කරන්න පුලුවන් වුන  දාට,  තදබල වේදනාවක් විඳිමින්  ඉන්නකොටත් ඔව් මම හොඳින් කියල හිනාවෙලා කියන්න පුලුවන් වුනදාට,  තමන්ට දහසක් වැරදි කරපු කෙනෙක් උනත් ඔවුන්ට වැටුනම නැගිටින්න අත දෙන්න  පුළුවන් වුන දාට,  රාත්‍රිය පුරාම කදුලු සලලා ඊලග දවසේ උදේ කිසිම දෙයක් නොවුනු ගානට හිනාවෙලා සතුටින් ඉන්න පුළුවන් වුනදාට, තමන්ගේ   බත් මුළ කන්න නැති කෙනෙකුට දීලා අනුන්ගෙ බඩක  ගින්න නිවල තමන්ගෙ  බඩගින්න උහුලගන්න පුළුවන් වුන දාට,  උදවු කරලා හිනාවක්වත් වත් බලාපොරොත්තු නොවී ඉන්න පුළුවන් වුන දාට  තමන්ව තනි කරල දාලා යන හැමෝටම කට පුරා "ඔබට  සුබ ගමන් "කියල හදවතින්ම කියලා සතුටු වෙන්න පුළුවන් වුන දාට,  තමන් අඬන ගමන් හරි අනුන්ගෙ කඳුළු පිහදාන්න පුළුවන් වෙච්ච දවසට,  හැමෝම තම...

Before you decide to end a relationship, think about this; Will you be happy after this? Will you go back to them? Will you meet this same situation in another relationship? Will you try to find the same person in someone else body? After you have all the answers to these questions then ask yourself the last question, Can you do it for 60 more years? The truth is, no matter how good your partner is, there will be flaws in them. When you feel tired of this same person, remember that the new one will be the same too.  “Same” here means, at some points in life you will face the same problems but this time with a new person. So will you break up again?