Saturday, November 5, 2016


● changes her name
● changes her home
● leaves her family
● moves in with you
● builds a home with you
● gets pregnant for you
● pregnancy changes her body
● she gets fat
● almost gives up in the labor room due to the unbearable pain of child birth
● even the kids she delivers bear your name
Till the day she dies... everything she does... cooking, cleaning your house, taking care of your parents, bringing up your children, earning, advising you, ensuring you can be relaxed, maintaining all family relations, everything that benefit you..... sometimes at the cost of her own health, hobbies and beauty.
So who is really doing whom a favor?
Dear men, appreciate the women in your lives always, because it is not easy to be a woman.
*Being a woman is priceless*

Pass this to every woman in your contact to make her feel proud of herself.

A salute to ladies!
Pass to every man to know the value of women & pass this  to every woman to feel proud!

Wednesday, August 3, 2016


There will always be people who don’t like you; 

  • the way you look, the way you talk, 
  • the things you say, 
  • the way you dress, 
  • the things you believe in, 
  • the way you live your life. 

It’s up to you if you let them ruin your day or you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are. Try to be as good as you can be and if that’s not good enough for them, it will certainly be for you and the ones that respect you and deserve you. 


You Might Just Marry the “Wrong” Person, but That’s Alright....

Growing up, every little girl dreamed of her perfect wedding. How she might set herself apart from the rest, what gown she’ll walk down the aisle in, the place she’ll get married at, but most importantly, who’ll she’ll get married to.
A little girl isn’t going to carefully analyse each and every individual to see whether they match the perfect spouse they had in mind or not. With age, we realize that we’re probably never going to find that perfect spouse and decide to settle for someone else. Here’s the first thing we do wrong. We settle.
Ever since the advent of romanticism, we’ve believed that there’s surely someone out there for everyone. If only there was a way to go back in time and tell the person who came up with this to add the line, “but they don’t have to be perfect”.
Is there someone out there for everyone? Of course there is! Eventually you are going to find love and live happily ever after just like you thought you would when you were younger. The fact is, we’re completely unwilling to let go of that idea. When flaws start to unravel, we conclude that this person isn’t the right one and we’ll just have to look for love elsewhere.
We might not be that naive little girl anymore, but we’re still looking for perfection. However, have we ever really wondered whether we’re perfect or not?
Who knows us better than anyone? Us. Look at yourself in the mirror and really, I mean really, determine whether everything about you is perfect. We’re not perfect. No one is perfect. Here’s where you’ll find yourself realizing how the title makes sense. “Wrong” doesn’t mean that they’re abusive or manipulative; it simply means that they aren’t perfect. When we’re dating, we don’t really focus on enlarging our flaws. Our first date doesn’t start off with the question, “So, how’s therapy going?”.
However, anything we sense wrong in a budding relationship is deemed as their fault and not ours. These reasons won’t be valid once we’re married. Because, we aren’t living in the era where men and women married because it was suitable to everyone else’s needs.
Today, you can know any and every one just by searching their names on a search engine. If you’re marrying someone then you obviously know a lot more about them. Thus, if or when things start to go sour, you’re left blaming yourself for picking the “wrong” person.
Like I mentioned before, everyone tries their best to mask their flaws rather than highlight them when they first meet. Eventually, you find yourself falling slowly in love with that person and you think of them as the closest you’ll ever come to your dream guy. You take a vow and you’re married.
The stories we read as kids ended with, “and they lived happily ever after”, but that doesn’t apply to the real world where the story only begins afterwards. It’s after you’re married that you realize you don’t know them as well as you thought. 
When you two used to date, things could be overlooked but right now you’re sharing a life together. You can’t turn a blind eye to anything. You need to realize that over time things will unravel and you’ll have to learn to deal with them.
Let me put it simply; they aren’t wrong and neither are you. They’re a human being just as much as you are and if you have flaws then they sure as hell do too. The second you’re perfect spouse fantasy got tainted a bit, you can’t just assume that you married the wrong person. What’s a marriage if not hard work?
You need to stick by your spouse and go through everything with them. They have to do the same with you. Your perfect and your ideal are two different people. The perfect person was the one you’ve been fantasizing about and your ideal person is the one who can understand you, care for you, help you and love you. That was the person you thought you needed and this is the person you actually need. There are days life will literally feel like a bed of roses and days those roses are replaced with thorns. You won’t be living the life you dreamt about because there will be fights and things will be said, but you owe it to the man you married to at least understand them before concluding that you married the wrong person.

In no way am I telling you to stick around for an abuser. I’m telling you to not make up excuses for yourself if your relationship isn’t picture perfect. Sometimes there is no valid excuse and this is just the way it was meant to be. Think about it, if you’re having a bad day then surely there was a good day to which you can compare it too. 
Marriage isn’t an easy thing.

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

විවාහයේ යතාර්තය

කෙල්ලෙක් කසාද බදින්න ඕන. ඒ කෙල්ල එක්ක බුදිය ගන්නවත්,ඒ කෙල්ල දාව දරුවෙක් හදා ගන්නවත්,ඒ කෙල්ලට කියල ගෙදර දොර වැඩපල කර ගන්නවත්,ඒ කෙල්ලට කියලා උයා පිහා ගෙන රෙදි ටික හොද ගන්නවත්, පාලුව මකා ගන්න විතරක් නෙවි. 

දවසක ඒකිට වැඩක් පලක් කර ගන්න බැරි වුනාම හරි පිරිමියෙක් නම් ගෙදර දොර හැම වැඩ කල යුතුයි.ඒකීට පුලුවන් නම් ගේ දොර හැම වැඩක්ම කරන්න.ඇයි පිරිමින්ට බැරි ඒකිට බැරි වෙලාවකටවත් උදව් කරන්න. අඩු තරමේ ලෙඩක් දුකක් හැදුනු වෙලාවටවත් ඒකීව ආදරේන් පරිස්සම් කරන්න බැරි නම් වැඩක් නෑ... හැම කෙල්ලෙක්ගෙම හිතේ ලස්සන හීන තියනවා. පිරිමි තේරුම් ගන්න ඕන ඒ හීන.. ඒ හිත්.පුලුවන් නම් ඒකිට අසනීපයක් උන වේලාවට හරි ඒ කෙල්ල ලඟ ඉදන්. ගෙදර දොර වැඩ ටික කරල දීලා පිළිවලකට තිබ්බොත් මම හිතන්නෙ පිරිමිකමෙන් අඩුවක් වෙන්නෙ නෑ... ඒකී මහ ගොඩක් ආදරය කරාවි  මහත්වරුණි . 
'' මම හිතන්නෙ මහත්වරුණි ගෑණියෙක් එක්ක බුදියනම එක නෙවි කසාද ජිවිතේ.ඒකිව ආදරේන් පරිස්සම් කරන එකයි ජිවිතේ "