Rules for Establishing Long Lasting Relationships

1. Seek to understand the individual deeply without trying to change or being judgmental.
2. Make commitments you can keep and keep those commitments.
3. Give them the care and attention the way they need it, NOT the way you THINK they need it or the way YOU need it.
4. Know when to shut up.
5. Give the freedom to live their life without passing judgment and be there when things go wrong.
6. Focus more on the things they do well and only give advice when they ask for it.
7. Learn to let go if and when required.
8. Help to develop the capability to fight their own battles.
9. Act with sincerity and integrity at all times.
10. Accept the imperfections with grace as they make human beings much more adorable.
11. Tell or show them that you care. Very few can read minds.
12. Be direct and upfront (But timing is key!) .
13. Ask and give feedback on the relationship and keep changing yourself as you go along.
14. Face conflicts with the intention of improving the relationship. Never avoid them.
15. Never force to change their behavior.
16. Never do anything for personal gain.
17. Apologies when required.

One relationship that is built this way will be more enriching than 10 mediocre relationships.

Sex is a Pleasure, Love is an Affection

Men attend women for two reasons, sex and love, but in most cases men do not marry for sex or for love, they marry for stability.

A man can love you and not marry you.

A man can have sex with you for years without marrying you.

But immediately he finds someone who brings stability in his life, he marries her.

Men are visionaries when they think about marriage, they do not think about wedding dresses, bridesmaids, anything the woman thinks is fanciful.

They think that this woman can build me a home.

Women are tender, they have the capacity to receive and reproduce.

You give her groceries, she prepares a meal, you give her money, she gives you peace, you give her sperm and she gives you children.

You give it discomfort, it becomes your worst nightmare and most men know it. This is why a man can stay with a woman for years and meet another in a month, then get married.

It's the stability they want.

Sex is a pleasure, love is an affection, RESPECT is stability.

The Love I Want

When I was a little child, I always imagined  myself with the man I wanted to marry. I imagined the man as handsome as those movie stars in the TV. I imagined him giving me a romantic love just like how he acted in the film. I called that perfect love story. 

Now that I grow up, I understand there's no such things as perfect love. I have reached the ages where I need perfect man no more. I just need someone who gives me peace of mind. Someone who helps me grow from worst to bad, from bad to good, and from good to the best of myself. Someone who lifts me up when I fall down to the ground. 

I keep imagining myself with a man who teaches me life lesson and guides me to the right path. We grow and build our lives together.

Falling for Someone...

Have you ever felt yourself slowly fall for someone? I mean it starts out with friendship it always does. But then it starts to bloom into something more. At first you guys only did pointless banter and small talk, but slowly it progressed into long conversations about your past, and what you want for the future. They became more deep and meaningful. And when you're with them, that's probably the highlight of your day, just sitting next to them in silence makes you happy. 

That's when it hits you, you realize, that you might like them more than a friend, because you can't get rid of this knot in your heart that you feel with them. I mean now, every touch, every hug, becomes so precious to you, because you finally understand what's happening to you, you're falling for them.

Date someone who....

Date someone who is interested in you. I don’t mean someone who thinks you are funny or cute. I mean someone who wants to know every insignificant detail about you. Someone who wants to read every word you write, someone who wants to listen your voice frequently. Someone who wants to hear every note of your favorite song and watch every scene of your favorite movie. Someone who wants to find every single scar on your body and learn where each one came from. Someone who wants to know how many tablespoons of sugar you put in your morning coffee or which quotes resonate deep inside your bones when you hear them. There is difference between attraction and interest. Find the person who wants to learn every aspect of who you are.

Someday, You Will Get The Love You Deserve ❤️

Someday, you will fall in love with someone unexpectedly.... Someone whom you did not expect to genuinely care for you. 

Someday, you will fall in love with someone who is not just good with sweet words but also with efforts. 

Someday, you will fall in love with someone who will make you feel at home.... Someone who will make you whole again. 

Someday, you will fall in love with someone who will not give up on you easily.... Someone who sees your worth. 

Someday, you will fall in love with someone who sees your unwanted sides and still embrace you for who you are. 

Someday, you will fall in love with someone who is far from being perfect but will definitely stay. 

Do not rush in love. True love takes time. It does not happen overnight. You have to have faith and keep going.